7 Wonders for Wandering Brides: Featuring Brenda Swann from Swann Soirees

Brides-to-Be, SwannSoirees is a wonderful business, with magical talents that can help make your wedding a gem! Suzanne says Brenda is sweet and spunky and makes a great Engaged! roommate as well as a rockin coordinator.  “If you would like to enjoy your day instead of stressing about what comes next Brenda could be your personal hero.”

Meet Brenda and see what she is up to!

Dos Besos,

Katie from the Wanderers

1)   What should brides/grooms/curious seekers know about you?

-Curious minds should know I don't function in absolutes.

Defining life in absolute terms is so limiting yet puts so much pressure on you, I can't handle it. Life is organic and I enjoy living it that way...before you think I'm some crazy person, what i mean by that is that much of it (life) is made out of actions & reactions. As human beings we have the ability to think through those actions and reactions, so instead of functioning under the pressure of "I might die if..." or "it has to be like that or I'll..." I make the choices that I think are best for me & my situation and run with it, see where it takes meand well... Just live it out. There is so much we can't control, so what I can control will at least be well-thought out. I transfer that philosophy to planning weddings, life it's an experience, wedding planning should be too- and the wedding... Well, it's milestone day that celebrates what is yet to come, it is not the end-all or be-all of the amazing moments which led you to it, nor is it the pinnacle of all you will be...

2)   Why do you love what you are doing?

-Because it is huge part of what makes me happy. I have an incredible husband and family, a team of women who help Swann Soirées thrive from every standpoint, I get to meet people from all over and share in their lives, and every single day is a product of my choices & decisions. Granted it is not easy to run your own business, be a wife, mentor, boss, or any of the other roles I fill on a daily basis, often it is really hard work and I live a totally unbalanced life, but I am 100% responsible for everything that causes me joy or headaches and that makes me happy. This is my life, my dream, my heartache, my everything and anything. I don't feel like I am missing anything to complete my life. Do I want more out of life? heck yea! But recognizing how happy I am is what allows me to get so much more more out of it, and that is why I love it.

3)   What makes your business wonderful and stand out from the rest?

-Our mission is to encourage & inspire- that's what makes us wonderful. We don't have pre-set ideas or formulas for the perfect wedding. we dont require specific budgets, venues, or guest list counts, styles, themes, etc. Our portfolio is full of weddings that are all completely different because we take pride in encouraging clients to make their celebration THEIRS- we add in our experience as  necessary, and viola! If you want to have guests trade custom trading cards at cocktail hour, great! If you want your first dance to a mariachi, fun! Want to wear a Sari for your Catholic ceremony, quote a Disney movie in your vows, have a flash-mob dance routine in the middle of dinner- Rad!! Let's do it! We encourage a "what makes you happy" philosophy. We make sure that we are your cheer squad, advocate, sound box, resource, and allow you to have an amazing day that truly is a reflection of who you are and what's important to you.

4)   Where do you find your inspiration?

-I am mostly inspired by feelings- everyday feelings....how do you feel when you drink cold lemonade on a hot day? How do you feel when you are packing to travel abroad? How do you feel when you land at your destination? When you're on a roller coaster? Going on a hot date? Bought new shoes? Ran 8 miles in 90 degree weather? Everything is influenced by how it makes me feel, right down to the color palette of my firm logo & graphics... I can trace that inspiration back to a specific feeling I experienced.

5)   What does the world need right now?

-The world needs a universal understanding that time is borrowed. We aren't going to live forever, yet many of the decisions we make as people, countries,  etc, seem to have eternally defined goals which cause so many problems. I think if we collectively functioned under the understanding how precious time is, we would appreciate life more and live it so differently than we do now. I'd like to think more peacefully.

6)   What advice do you have for brides to be?

-There are no ultimatums in wedding planning. Everything in life requires you compromise at some point. You can't successfully plan a wedding, enjoy the process, and have a great wedding day if you aren't willing to compromise when needed.

7)   If you could go to one of the 7 wonders of the world, where would you go and why?

-That would depend if it is one of the Ancient, Medieval, or the "New" wonders... But kidding aside, I have been fortunate enough to have traveled to two wonders out of each of the three categories, for a total of six wonders- I'd be delighted to go to ANY of them just so that I can say I've been to seven wonders! So many wonders, such little life...

sisters

I met Morgan and Whitney through Regan before they were even married. Since then they have had two beautiful baby girls. What luck for Emma and Annie, I always wanted a sister growing up.I have two brothers, Chris and Bear, who taught me how to defend myself, never give up, and keep my word. Mostly because boys like to fight, my brother was always three years older than me no matter how badly I wanted to beat him in swimming races, and Hansen's have loooong memories. In other words don't say anything unless you will still mean it for at least five years.So I imagine Emma and Annie will learn different lessons along the way. I never had to share my shoes, share the spotlight in my dance classes, or compete for a boys affection. All of these were very good things because I was a terrible dancer. You can follow Emma and Annie's exploits on The Little Hen House.

I thought It would be really fun to see how another blogger would curate a post. So I asked Morgan to pick her favorites from her family shoot and I would pick mine.  I'm a big fan of collaborating so I was stoked when Morgan agreed to play with me.

Happy Friday, xoxo Suzanne

Here are my favorite images.

Kiss and Tell : Acumen August with Palka

Palka, Hrishi and their families opened their hearts for three days to Suzanne and Mike. They never got caught up in the festivities and always knew why and what they were celebrating. Suzanne loved how warm, inclusive and involved both families were. Palka's incredible amount of energy cannot be described in words but her sincerity and emotional availableness shine through the pictures. Mike's favorite part of the day was the groom's procession to the ceremony. It was full of excitement, laughter and music. He loved all the outfits, colors and enjoyed shooting the care-free members of the family. Meet Palka and hear what she has to share! Feel free to voice your thoughts!Dos Besos, Katie from the Wanderers

Palka and husband, San Diego Wedding Photography, SheWanders Wedding Photography

palka and husband kiss, San Diego Wedding Photography, SheWanders Wedding Photography

palka and family, San Diego Wedding Photography, SheWanders Wedding Photography

red rose wedding aisle, indian wedding, San Diego Wedding Photography, SheWanders Wedding Photography

palka and husband at alter, San Diego Wedding Photography, SheWanders Wedding Photography

palka and husband close up at alter, San Diego Wedding Photography, SheWanders Wedding Photography

1) How did you mentally prepare for the big day?

-I am honestly not sure. I guess I would say that I focused on the small things. Kept my mind focused on what mattered and didnt get boggled down with the stress. I had a great support group in my family and my husband so I always leaned on them. But towards the last few days/weeks...I think I focused on the excitement..you can feel it building...and when you start seeing your friends and family coming into town for the day...it just makes you feel warm inside and just so darn happy!

2) Did you have any events surrounding the wedding. I.E baseball game, rehearsal dinner, brunch, bachelorette party? Tell us about it.

-Yes we had plenty! Events started on Thursday evening with a mendhi party/bridal shower (henna party with all my girlfriends and family). Friday morning we had a religious ceremony at my parents home (to summarize its like a purification and blessing done for the bride before she starts a new chapter of her life). Friday evening we had a cocktail party (sangeet party). All our close friends and family were invited (200 guests) and we had an outdoor venue set up...dancing, drinking and just spending time with all the people that came to San Diego to celebrate the big day with us. Probably the most fun evening. Saturday we had both the wedding and reception and Sunday we had a brunch for both families at our house. We were EXHAUSTED after all that! (not sure how much detail you want for this..let me know I can always add more?!)

3) What is something that makes for a great wedding day?

-A great day...hmmm...I think to just remember the focus of the day. Its about you and him. And you want to share that with your close family and friends. All the details of the wedding are not important. Just be happy and focused on the love you share...and the love of all your friends and family. That is what honestly got me through. Seeing everyone around you celebrating and having a good time is just priceless.

4) Did you see your spouse for the first time before the ceremony or during the ceremony? How did you feel?

-I saw my husband before the ceremony for pictures. It was exciting...little nervous...as it hit me then that we were really getting married...the big day was here!! I was scared/nervous/excited...all and every emotion was going through me.

5) What is one of your favorite memories?

-One of my favorite memories...was when my husband and I got a few moments to ourselves after the ceremony and before the wedding. I think that was when it really hit the both of us...we were married...holding hands...and we just looked at each other and our eyes were smiling.

6) What song do you most remember on the dance floor?

-"It wasnt me" by Shaggy. LOL. That is one of my husband's favorite songs...and he was going wild on the dance floor when it was playing. So fun to watch him.

7) What is a piece of advice you wish you had known before the big day?

- That people want to help. I always thought that planning a wedding and asking for help would be a bother to those around me. So I tried to do a lot of it on my own...but I didnt have to do that at all...there were friends and family all around that wanted to help. And I should have asked. Its would have helped me out..and it would have made them feel good too. Lesson learned!

8 ) Weddings are wonderful, but share some marriage tips please!

-Marriage tips...so many different things: But most importantly, to help each other be a better human being. To work as a team towards your goals in life and in the relationship. And to remember to laugh and have fun always! I think I love my husband more today than I did the day we got married.